We have talked a lot about life and death in our home over the last week. It’s a heavy topic, but circumstances meant discussing death was unavoidable.
The first thing that happened was that a young mum from our church passed away. The kids understandably had some questions…
- Mummy why are you sad?
- What is a funeral?
- What happens when people die?
The second thing that happened was that two of our Gouldian Finch eggs hatched. The pair had been sitting on four tiny eggs. Unfortunately a common behaviour of Gouldians is to “pitch” their young. For a range of reasons, the parents toss their own chicks out of the nest. Sadly our finches pitched their two chicks, and despite our attempts to return them to the nest, we were unable to save them. The other two eggs did not hatch. Again, the kids had questions:
- Why did they throw their babies?
- Why didn’t the other eggs hatch?
- Should we bury them?
- Why is nature so unfair?
- Why do some creatures live and some die?
I don’t have all the answers to questions about life and death, but I answered the kids to the best of my ability, at an age appropriate level, according to what I believe. It is unfair, isn’t it? Sometimes Gouldians pitch their young because the chicks aren’t healthy, and sometimes because they just aren’t ready to be parents yet. (Aren’t you glad I’m not a Mummy Finch?! I would never pitch you.) I don’t know why the other two eggs didn’t hatch. Perhaps they didn’t grow properly inside, or maybe the parents didn’t keep them warm enough. It’s hard to understand, but it’s important to remember that everything that lives – dies one day. Yes, we can bury them together. Let’s dig a little hole…
And thirdly, this weekend is Easter. Today is Good Friday, the day we reflect on Jesus’ death on the cross. Sunday is coming, the day we celebrate His resurrection. And the kids have questions:
- Why isn’t it called Bad Friday?
- Why did Jesus die?
- When can we have Easter eggs?!
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