Everybody’s talking about it… this issue with keeping up the juggling act. We’re all talking about it because we’re all struggling with it. How do we keep all the balls in the air? How do we juggle life as women, mothers, wives, employers, employees, bloggers…
Each of us is only one person, and there are only 24 hours in a day. At the bare minimum we need to sleep for six of those hours (and you and I both know that eight would be better)! Without stopping to eat we’d never get through the day, so there go another two hours. With the hours left there are so many demands on our time. I spend a lot of time with a lot of mums who confess that they often crash into bed at night, wondering how they’ll fit all the things they didn’t get around to doing today, into tomorrow’s schedule! And I understand, because I’m as guilty of it as anyone.
Kate from Picklebums recently wrote about this Tricky problem, and in the same week a friend and MOPS (Mothers Of Pre Schoolers) leader posted this on facebook:
As you can imagine she received many comments. I started writing my list for you, but deleted it because quite frankly I’m embarrassed about how long it is. Another mum from my church who has older kids than I do and is a little further along the road than me pointed me to this article by Keri Wyatt Kent. In it she says,
A wise friend of mine puts it this way:
“I picture myself juggling a lot of balls. Sometimes, I drop a ball. In most cases, that’s not too big of a deal. But a few of the balls, like my husband and my kids, are glass balls. So I make sure I do whatever it takes not to shatter those balls.”
Some of the balls are rubber, and will bounce if we just give them a little push now and then. Some are lead and just weigh us down and we shouldn’t be trying to juggle them in the first place.
Sometimes we have to say “no” to opportunities, to requests that other people make. The discipline of saying no, and wisdom to know when to say it, is a great challenge.
When I read that I thought she was speaking to me. My blog is a rubber ball. It can bounce back from a few days offline, and nobody’s world would be shattered if I didn’t post for a month. I think housework is a rubber ball too! I know there are balls made of lead I need to just let go of. They are not mine to juggle. But my husband and my kids are my glass balls. I can’t drop them. Ever. My precious kids need Mummy-time almost as much as they need food to eat, and my husband deserves the best of me, not what’s left of me at 11:30pm. I’m so glad I have this visual image now to remind me of the beauty and fragility of relationships.
What are you juggling in your life?
PS – No judgemental comments. Especially about the 6hrs sleep thing, ok? We’re all just doing our best and trying to work things out…